Perhaps all this calculated coquetting is anti-feminist and old-fashioned, but so is sitting at home and staring at the phone.

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"You can see Britney Spears’ demise happened around the same time she proposed to Kevin Federline," she says.

"He never really wanted her."Vanessa sweetly gushed about her own recent marriage and how helped her find — and keep — her dream guy.

Vanessa puts a more flexible spin on Ellen and Sherrie's program.

For her, it boils down to creating healthy boundaries and establishing your own power in the relationship, right from the start.

Authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein took a wise and biting tone with readers, outlining such unbreakable principles as, "Always end phone calls first," and "be a From the start, the book had its critics — those who called out the book as an anti-feminist, "goose-step guide to dating." Indeed, the entire program hinged on the concept of men as dimwitted hunters and women as the elusive, shiny-haired bait.

Yet, the first printing alone sold over a quarter of a million copies in the U.

I spoke with Vanessa Taylor, a Rules Coach based in Los Angeles.

On her blog, Platinum Girl: The World's Most Precious Woman, Taylor analyzes celebrity relationships through the lens of are tools for women to stop men from ruining their lives.

S., and was soon reprinted in 18 different languages.