But here’s the fun thing about numbers: they don’t tell you as much as we think.

Someone who’s had many sex partners may be the last of the red hot lovers… Someone who’s had very few may well be shy and awkward…

Just because the last 40 women you made out with liked the Swirly-Go-Round doesn’t mean that it’s not going to make your partner’s skin crawl. Do your research where you can (here’s a great place to start…), take some risks, make some mistakes.

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The difference is deceptively simple, but it makes a world of difference.

See, one of the fears of being inexperienced is that your potential partners will see it as a negative.

If you venture into any Forever Alone or incel community like /r9k/, you’ll see hundreds of people lamenting how much sex they’ve never had and how the world is conspiring against them.

That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.

They set themselves up for failure by looking for reasons why others couldn’t possibly like them or why they couldn’t improve, and wait for the Universe to deliver instead.

But your inexperience doesn’t of people treat dating like a game.

The assumption is that women (because this is almost always a hetero male issue) will date a man who can rock their worlds and a virgin has no chance of pleasing her.

And once he does, she will spread the word through the Cute Girl Network and ensure he’s blacklisted from all sexual activities in the future.

The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.

We tend to make assumptions based around expectations built up by pop-culture and expectations about what makes a “real” man, assuming that everybody (but us) has been riding the sex train since the 5th Grade while we’re still Machokeing our Combusken at 19.

If you miss that window, then you’re fucked; you’re now saddled with a permanent debuff to your dating odds that you’ll overcome.