I wanted to address physical attractiveness right at the start, because obviously it’s a huge factor in how successful your profile is.

In the upcoming posts in this series, we’re going to control for attractiveness, so that we can deliver real and useful advice for all the non-models out there.

Most of us are lucky if we can find one person to spend our lives with and a handful of great friends to keep us company. Through the years the Doctor has had over 42 companions.

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Here’s the graph for female senders, plotted in evenly-spaced “attractiveness groups.”One interesting thing seems to be going on here: when the best-looking men write the worst-looking women, their message success rate takes a big hit.

The knee-jerk response would be to somehow chalk it up to hunky spammers, but we very carefully control for that in these articles, and in any event why would better-looking girls be drastically more susceptible to it? As we did before, I’m going to consolidate the line charts to show just how your attractiveness changes how often your messages get responses.

We’re going to look at how your photos affect both the messages you get and how successful your own outgoing messages are.

We all know that beautiful people are more successful daters, but let’s quantify by exactly how much.

For instance, the most attractive guys get 11× the messages the lowest-rated do.

The medium-rated get about 4×., not just the number of messages sent.

To illustrate the exact spectrum of looks we’re talking about here, and to put some human faces on our discussion, I want to introduce a few photos of real Ok Cupid users.

Here are two women and two men near the top of our range.

As you’d expect, more attractive people get more replies.

And since they themselves get so many more messages than everyone else, they write back much less frequently.

Someone like roomtodance above gets nearly 5 times as many messages as a typical woman and 28 times as many messages as a woman at the low end of our curve.